Why don’t talk about the “sortir de la friendzone“. First of all, it is a generalization to discuss the “friend zone”. In the seduction community, when you notice someone speak about this, what they actually mean is being a new wimp and doubting and not knowing what to do to get lovemaking with the woman in question. You see, being her friend is just not per se a bad thing, but being in the friend zoom sucks.
So , we need to define this dreaded “friend zone”. What is it? Have you ever had a friend you were “secretly” attracted to? Performed you not know what to do and did you endure several situations like her ignoring you or treating an individual badly or complaining about the guys she likes, and yet, you still have nowhere? Well, that’s the friend zone, nowhere.
First, you will talk about the dangers of the friend zone (it is like the particular twilight zone, but less fun). Then we will check out something that people in the friend zone never do (and people who are not in the friend zone always do). This will likely lead to an attitude that will change the way you method the problem. So if you want to learn how to get out of the “friend zone” or perhaps you are just curious about what it is and how you can prevent that, follow me because here I have a simple yet strong solution to your problem.
Now, what’s wrong with the friend ligue? If you like to have a relationship with her that includes: no sex, their constant complaints about other guys, you calling her continually and her never returning the calls (and giving answers to from time to time), her treating you badly, and plenty of other not-worth-it stuff, then the friend zone is just what that you were looking for, and there’s nothing wrong about it. My guess is that you desire something different with her, don’t you?
Well, let’s say it: girls are generally not good friends. Most girls will not do what your guy friends will do to suit your needs, and you shouldn’t either. Some guys treat girls a lot better than their male friends, and that’s just plain stupid. Look at just how women treat each other. Their not good friends to each other, in addition to rarely are they good friends with men. They are fun to be with, and nice to have around, but that does not make them buddies. So , the thing is, maybe your mother or grandmother coached you that you had to be nice to women, but you can try it out. Be nice to women and see the response you get. And then just be natural. You see, sometimes we do more than necessary, of course, if we were able to stop and just enjoy the moment and be sincere, less people would have trouble with the friend zone.
The particular friend zone is just a configuration of your mind in partnership with your situation for a particular relationship with one woman. Tend not to over generalize. If you can change that configuration you can get out from the friend zone. So let’s see how this is done.
Firstly, be direct. Not only in the way you communicate but also in the way you imagine and do things. Be straightforward.
Why hide that you like him / her? Is it an insult that you like her? Isn’t it similar to a compliment, that you like her? You do not need to give excuses regarding thinking or feeling the way you think or feel.
Think it over. The longer you delay it, the harder it can be, because you both get used to your relationship working in one way as opposed to another. Be honest about your intentions. Don’t turn around the pot. Do not too vague. If you like her neck, tell her, if you like her eyes, tell her. But only if you feel like telling the girl. You could always play a little with that and just let the woman work to know what it is that you like about her. Don’t merely talk about sex and don’t talk just about sex. Talk about what you may like, and get to know what she likes, yet, may just talk. Look, hear, smell, feel, touch, plus play. Don’t take yourself too seriously. If you can enable yourself to be more direct and enjoy more the process of seduction, in other words for you. That simple.
Be the prize. Too many people let her function as the prize. Let her call you, have high specifications. Go out to meet girls, but remember that as beautiful since she might be (or gorgeous or sexy or no matter what case), you still do not know her “inside”. You do not know your ex personality, you do not know if she is good in bed…
Don’t let her get all the “power”. Be powerful. Be effective. Make decisions, do things, instead of wondering, and doubting, just try and see and learn and grow by doing because it can be so natural you will not even have to think about it. “Be your man”.: )
Make her feel good with you. Often , folks in the friend zone assume that they have a good relationship with her… they think that just by going out frequently (or constantly) ready, that will do the trick. I am afraid that that is not so.
End up being fun. Look at people who are fun and ask yourself: “How do they take action? ” What is it that makes someone (or something) naturally amusing? Look for fun in your life (as well as beauty). If you possibly can wake up some good powerful potent mental states in your girlfriend when you are around, you are already heading towards the exit in the oh so dreaded friend zone.